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A Little Advice About Your Heart’s Desire

By October 8, 2013 23 Comments

There are moments in my life where I am in such a rush for all of my dreams to come true, especially the ones centered around my career.  There are days where I simply can’t wait for it to all unfold and I am doing all that I can to force it all into existence right here and now.  Now we all know that isn’t how the Universe works.  We can try to take the wheel but all we are going to do (in most instances) is burn out, cause ourselves unnecessary grief and end up surrendering to God.

This is my pattern.  I get into such a frenzy that I end up driving myself crazy…. I sleep very little, I shut out everything that is completely unrelated to my dreams, I run all over the city at all sorts of ungodly hours to audition, only to go home feeling completely defeated.  After weeks and sometimes months of this cycle I usually end up having some sort of breakdown that ends of with me surrendering to the Divine.  It’s so exhausting.  I hate feeling that way yet somehow it became a habit that I am crushing with my big 9.5 feet right here and now!

My dreams and the pursuit of my dreams, of all of our dreams, is supposed to be a magical journey.  It’s meant to be an adventure that gives expression to the highest parts of Who We Are.  When we become so attached to the outcome we diminish the entire process of our becoming.

Yesterday morning I came across a powerful quote that resonated with my entire being.  It said, “Do NOT let your heart’s DESIRE become your heart’s DISEASE.”  Isn’t that GLORIOUS!!!!! How many have fallen into this obsessive trap where our dreams and the journey to them become painful?

In the book, The Secret Door To Success, Florence encourages us to LEARN TO RELAX.  She reiterates that our big opportunities and big successes usually slide in when we least expect it.  You have to let go long enough for the great law of attraction to operate.  Here is an awesome analogy I also came across while reading this book.  Imagine a little round black magnet (mine has a little fro and a smiley face on it).  Be like this magnet.  Do not worry.  Do not become anxious.  Magnets stand up straight and don’t have a single a care in the world because it knows needles can’t help jumping to it.  The things we rightly desire come to pass when we have taken the clutch off.  You are completely demagnetized when you desire something too intensely.

So today let’s not be so moved.  Let’s be easy like a Sunday morning and let our ships come in on calm seas.  We are already doing the work so let’s trust and practice a little indifference.  Our heart’s desire will not become our heart’s disease.

Here’s to enjoying the ride.

How do you keep your eye on the prize while practicing a little bit of indifference?
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  • Avatar Melly W. says:

    Yes! Well said. You’ve given a few things to think about.
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  • Avatar Peggy Nolan says:

    Hi Tamala,

    Learning and practicing yoga, and practicing non-attachment has helped me declare my desired outcome and let it go. My job in creating magic is to ask and believe. I do my part, remain open to the possibilities and allow the Universe to work the rest. Like aligning the right person I’m supposed to meet for a writing project, or the person who wants to interview me for an national publication, etc. The Universe is pretty awesome 🙂
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    • Avatar Tamala says:

      Staying aligned takes such discipline and there are moments where I am so grateful for moments like these in my life.. that grant me the space to really center myself. The Universe is magical… and we are the magicians. If only we follow the laws at all times 🙂
      Thank you so much Peggy for stopping by and sharing an awesome comment.
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  • This is brilliant, Tamala. We are a society of instant gratification, aren’t we? Life is so fast we forget to just be, sometimes. When I am trying to manifest something, once I get the mental picture and feel how it feels to achieve it, see it, do it, have it, whatever, I let it go and do everything I can to keep from messing with it. I read a book, take a shower, take a nap, fold clothes, play the piano, have a conversation with the dog…anything to get my mind off of what it is that I desire. If you don’t think about it, you don’t put attachments on it such as how it come to you or when. For me, I think that’s how a lot of us get in our own way.
    Thanks for reminding us to slow down. This is great!
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    • Avatar Tamala says:

      For YEARS I would specify in detail how I wanted my dreams to come true… it is only recently that I learned how I was blocking my blessing by putting the universe into my little box.

      I am definitely trying to work on being unattached to my dreams… to not hold on to TIGHTLY. Not only am I standing in my own way… I’m adding unnecessary stress and angst to my life. Just a waste 🙂

      As always thank you so very much for stopping by and showing me some love.
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  • Ooops so sorry for misspelling your name 🙁 pet peeve of mine. So let me try it again…Hey Tamala 🙂
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  • Hey Tamela! Great post. As I read it I could totally relate. Sometimes we want something so badly that we completely ignore the beauty and the lessons that come with obtaining it. When I find myself swimming against the currents of life, I try to calm myself by repeating these words…”let it flow like water”. Ever notice how water just goes with the flow regardless of the rocks, and twigs and other debris it encounters? The ultimate thing that calms me when I am trying to control the uncontrollable in my life is Phil. 4:6 Be anxious for NOTHING, but in everything by prayer and supplication, let your requests be made known to God. Girl let God do His thing in your life and then stand back and be amazed.
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    • Avatar Tamala says:

      Yeeeessssss!!!! I love Philippians! Thank you so much for the thoughtful comment AND the insight. God does have my back so I just need to do my part and let him do the heavy lifting 🙂
      As always thank you so much Stacey for stopping by. I truly appreciate it 🙂 So happy we found each other this challenge.
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  • Avatar Missy Bell says:

    Thank you for this. I feel like you know exactly what I go through. You expressed it perfectly. My problem sometimes is that when I go through these extreme pushes and I don’t make enough happen (in my mind’s eye,) I fall into a depression for a bit. That’s not fair to the effort I put into it. I need to be more patient and stop expecting things to come easily. Like you said, it is a journey, and as you ahve read in my blog, the journeys that I go through teach me a great deal and I use what I learn to teach others. So why should I stress when I’m exactly where I need to be? I catch myself and try to remember this.

    What a wonderful post. SHARING!!
    Missy Bell

    • Avatar Tamala says:

      I too fall into a depression and I felt myself falling into one again…. and I decided to fight it by getting control of my thoughts and staying crystal clear on the truth. I’m so happy it resonated with you and I look forward to checking out more of your posts this month 🙂
      Thank you so much Missy for stopping by… I really appreciate it.

  • Avatar Debra Westbrook says:

    This is a great post and I can totally relate to it. I have tried to hurry my dreams along in my timing and in my way and gotten so frustrated and discouraged along the way. I am still not where I want to be BUT I am not stressing about it anymore but taking it in God’s rest.You are so right…….it is supposed to be magical and it has not always felt that way. But, I am still dreaming every day. 🙂

  • Oh how easy it is to make it a disease in today’s society. We spend all our time looking at everyone else’s seemingly easy walk into their ‘dream’ never realizing the nightmares that came before it or they may be living in because they pushed their time. Love this..
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  • Avatar Jewel says:

    The words in gold, “Do NOT let your heart’s DESIRE become your heart’s DISEASE”, is golden. This is a very fast paced society and want answers/results in a microwave second. Your reminder that we must take it one minute at a time and embrace the moment is an excellent reminder to all.–Thank you!

  • Avatar Tamsin says:

    I think our control freak side comes into play. Lack of trust that the Universe may not get it just right for us! Surrender ….. and let it be 🙂
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  • Avatar Misty Spears says:

    Wonderful article and I think relates to so many people. I am definitely one who gets tunnel vision when I’m on a mission and I can’t see anything other than what’s in front of me. I’ve got to learn to be easy like a Sunday morning sometimes too. Thanks for sharing!
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    • Avatar Tamala says:

      Thank you so much for stopping by today Misty and for the wonderful comment! I am a firm believer in tunnel vision in some respects. Sometimes when I don’t have tunnel vision I start comparing myself to people around me… which is AWFUL. HA 🙂 But yeah here’s to us being easy like Sunday morning. Thank you again for stopping by.
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  • Avatar Savorian says:

    Loved this. Found in a group on Facebook. Thanks for writing this. My life is just like this most of the time. I totally forget to forget it all because I’m so busy wanting to make it all happen. Thanks again. Much success to you.
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